friend: "the festival was a humbling experience."
me: "?"
friend: "well, i was upset that i could not be good enough for the leaders."
me: (silence)
friend: "it's easier when i am dancing with someone at my level."
me: (silence)
friend: "you don't agree?"
me: "it's not the way i think."
friend: "?"
me: "i have danced with incredibly talented and skilled partners, and with those who have just begun their journey. you know what's the most important thing for me?"
friend: "?"
me: "in the few minutes that we share on the floor, i feel, with certainty, that my partner trusts me, believes me, and loves me."
friend: "you are kidding."
3 comments:
you: best answer ever.
friend: very possibly clueless about the point of tango. Hopefully clues will come with time.
Mari,
Ha ha. My friend told me that she was grateful to have heard my answer. I think that men (in the beginning) think they need to know things to please women. My conversation with my friend was surprising to me, because it showed that (at least) some women have the same (but complementary) concern, that they need to know things too, or to be able to respond, or to be perfectly connected, to please men.
Who knows...
Mari,
Forgot to add that my friend is actually quite clueful. It like this: talk to a bunch of men, and you might find that they have anxieties about their "skills." When these same men hear from women that it's not about the "skills," but that it's more about other things (connection, etc.), these men may still have doubts about what they think is important, versus what women desire.
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